5 Failed Rehabs, Then He Made a Deal With God | Bernard Quisumbing

Bernard Quisumbing's story of addiction recovery, faith, and grief: five failed rehabs, 14 years on meth, and the prayer that set him free. Twenty years later, he's walking through the one loss he can't outwork. Stephen Scoggins sits down with Bernard, former hip-hop artist, former top-performing car salesman, and fitness and wellness thought leader with the Don't Quit Legacy Foundation, for one of the most honest conversations ever on One Part Lion, One Part Lamb. Bernard opens up about the deal he made with God after jail and five rehabs, how his marriage came back from the brink while he was "crushing it" at work, and what he's learning about grieving well after losing his baby brother, David. For high achievers, leaders, and faith-driven entrepreneurs, this is the Lion and Lamb methodology at its most human. The strength that gets you through, and the surrender that carries you when strength isn't enough. Content note: This episode discusses addiction and suicide and is intended for adult listeners. If you or someone you love is struggling, you are not alone. In the US, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). In this episode: - The prayer Bernard prayed when he "didn't even know God" - Why his wife was crumbling while he was the top performer at every dealership - The "Two Hands" principle: why high achievers give help but won't ask for it - Inflated vs. deflated ego: the two reasons we don't raise our hand - "Love or fear?": the question to run your words through before you speak to your kids - G.R.I.E.F.: an early framework for grieving well Chapters: (00:00) Intro & Content Note (01:46) 20 Years Sober From 14 Years of Meth (04:33) Meth, and the 60 People He Pulled In (06:42) Where It All Started: Age 7 (12:41) Top Performer, Crumbling Marriage (19:40) Two Hands: Why We Won't Ask for Help (20:52) Never Enough: The Messages He Believed (29:39) The Grief He Can't Outwork (32:23) What Families Get Wrong About Addiction (35:19) Five Failed Rehabs & a Deal With God (38:01) Why Asking for Help Is So Hard (43:07) Love or Fear? The Words Kids Carry (50:02) Anxiety, Isolation & Empathy (55:12) Achievement Hid Him, Didn't Heal Him (56:08) David, the Beloved & Anger at God (01:12:23) G.R.I.E.F.: How to Grieve Well (01:27:10) Don't Quit Legacy & Closing Watch the full video episode on YouTube HERE If this episode spoke to you, follow the show and leave a rating and review. It helps more leaders find these conversations. And if someone came to mind while you listened, send this episode to them. Connect with Bernard Quisumbing: Don't Quit Legacy Foundation: https://dqlegacyfoundation.org/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bernardquisumbing/ Follow Stephen Scoggins: Website: https://stephenscoggins.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephen_scoggins TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stephen_scoggins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/stephenscoggins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephenscoggins YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LionLambWithStephen