On Attachment

#288: The Difference Between Healthy Needs and Anxious Demands

November 3, 2026·18 min
Episode Description from the Publisher

Preorder my book, The Secure Self How do you know if your needs are reasonable and healthy, or if they're rooted in the anxious attachment patterns you're wanting to shift? This question, which is a really common struggle, is what we're unpacking in today's episode. I share some thoughts on why the answer is actually less clear-cut than the question implies, why our anxious patterns make needs feel so fraught and risky, and what it really takes to know what we need and stand firmly for our wellbeing in our relationships and beyond.LinksPreorder my book, The Secure SelfExplore my free resources on attachment healingFollow me on Instagram

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