You got so much attention when you were fatter... Now we walk in and we're just old

Send us Fan Mail This episode of "Not Well" is a brutally honest, stream-of-consciousness conversation about navigating gay life in your 30s with all its contradictions and anxieties. The hosts dive deep into the psychological aftermath of major weight loss, discussing how losing 65-70 pounds has paradoxically made one of them feel less attractive in gay spaces—getting way more attention as a bigger bear than as a slimmer guy. They question whether it's the weight, aging, or just a combinatio...