169: Should Couples Go To Bed Angry?

In this 12-minute episode, I unpack the common relationship advice that “good couples never go to bed angry”and offer a more nuanced, research-informed perspective.We explore what actually happens in the brain and body during conflict, including emotional flooding, the role of the amygdala, and why the prefrontal cortex goes offline when we’re overwhelmed. I also break down stonewalling; one of the Four Horsemen identified by John Gottman, and how it can often be a nervous system response rather than intentional disconnection.This episode walks you through how to take a healthy pause during conflict without damaging the relationship; including how to communicate that pause, use a code word when words feel hard to access, and the importance of following through to rebuild trust and emotional safety.I also share practical ways to self-regulate during conflict so you can return to the conversation from a more grounded, connected place.If you’ve ever felt pressure to resolve everything immediately, or struggled with shutting down or feeling shut out, this episode will help you navigate conflict in a way that protects both you and the relationship.♾ In a fast-paced world like the one we live in, time is one of our most important assets. For a few minutes every episode, I, Tannaz Hosseinpour, will be discussing topics that aim to enhance the quality of your life, by helping you feel empowered to take inspired action on your personal growth journey.Connect with me for daily insights:InstagramFacebookTikTokMore resources available on www.minutesongrowth.comThis podcast is for educational purposes only. The host claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the information presented herein.