Everyone Says My Kid Is So Resilient (here's why I bristle at that description)

Let me tell you who so often ends up sitting across from a trauma therapist twenty years later: a strong and resilient person. They're the kid who never made a fuss. The kid nobody worried about because she never gave anyone a reason to. Somewhere along the way, we flattened "resilient" into handles hard things without needing anyone. And from the outside, you cannot tell the difference between a kid who is strong and a kid who has quietly concluded that strong is the only option they have. I...