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IN IT with Jordan Harper and Ashley Buckler

Mental Load for Moms: The Invisible Work Nobody Talks About. Why “Just Tell Me What to Do” Doesn’t Work (and What Actually Helps).

April 21, 2026·49 min
Episode Description from the Publisher

If you've ever sat in your car and cried from the overwhelm (like Jordan did this morning), you already know what mental load is. Paige Connell built a loyal following for giving women the words for what they're carrying. In this episode, she breaks down why the mental load never feels shorter, why "just tell me what to do" doesn't actually help, and the step-by-step process she used to redistribute the work in her own marriage, including a spreadsheet, a two-hour couch conversation, and the 18 months it took to get it right. She also gets into why making the invisible labor visible matters more than any individual task, what it actually means to feel seen, and how to set minimum standards so you and your partner are finally working from the same page. This one's worth clearing your head for. Find Paige Connell on Instagram, TikTok, LinkedIn or her website. Follow Jordan Harper on Instagram Follow Ashley Buckler on Instagram

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