Why Certainty is Making Us Lonely (Moments with Miles)

Why does being right feel so much better than being curious? And is our obsession with certainty the cause of our greatest divides?This episode breaks down the psychology behind certainty — why our brains default to it, what it costs us in our relationships, and why curiosity might be the more reliable path to actually feeling connected to other people.What you'll learnHow confirmation bias shapes what we believe is true, without us noticing it happeningWhat the illusory truth effect is, and why repetition can make an opinion feel like factHow to tell the difference between healthy disagreement and contemptWhy algorithms and media incentives reward certainty over nuance — and what that does to us over timeA mindset shift for staying curious under pressure, borrowed from an unlikely place: horsemanshipWhy feeling understood does more for anxiety than winning an argument ever doesHow to hold strong beliefs without needing everyone around you to agreeBuilding your curiosity muscles? Onsite offers a range of experiences to do life-changing work around your story and what your body might be holding onto. Learn more here.Timestamps00:00 — This might be why you're feeling lonely02:30 — Illusory truth effect and confirmation bias05:30 — Making content in the age of outrage07:00 — The real product is Identity09:45 — A horse changed everything13:00 — Understanding vs. "winning"15:00 — Becoming harder to recruit Stay connected with Human School:YouTube - https://hubs.la/Q04rLNLl0Instagram - https://hubs.la/Q04rLNVX0Threads - https://hubs.la/Q04rLP6D0TikTok - https://hubs.la/Q04rLPfY0