Bob Goff: What It Feels Like to Be You Right Now

Stuck in the same emotional patterns? Onsite's Living Centered Program is a five-day intensive that helps you slow down, go deeper, and do the inner work that changes things. Learn more at experienceonsite.com What if the most meaningful thing you ever did wasn't whatmade you famous, but who you showed up for when nobody was watching? What if the key to getting unstuck isn't adding more to yourlife, but having the courage to quit something on a Thursday? Bob Goff — NYT bestselling author, founder of Love Does, andhonorary consul to Uganda — joins Miles Adcox for one of the most honest conversations in Human School history. These two have traveled conflict zones together, worked with San Quentin, and called each other in the gutted middle-of-the-night moments real friendships are made of. Bob opens up about walking away from law, stepping back fromspeaking, and handing over the nonprofit, he literally wrote the book on. He shares the four lies he tells himself daily and why naming them changed everything. He tells the story of Kabi — a Ugandan witch doctor convicted of child sacrifice — whom Bob prosecuted, befriended on death row, and watched transform an entire prison. They go deep on finding your "eight," the epidemic of loneliness, and why so many of us are surrounded by acquaintances but starving for real friendship. In this conversation, you'll learn:How to Use Context to Replace Judgment Before It Costs You a RelationshipHow to Know the Difference Between Self-Aware andSelf-AbsorbedHow to Find Your Eight and Stop Mistaking Acquaintances for FriendsHow to Quit Something Every Thursday and Why It's the Most Freeing PracticeHow to Stop Freeze-Framing People in Their Worst MomentHow to Replace "How Are You" with a Question ThatOpens a DoorHow to Recognize Your Tells and What They're ReallyProtectingHow to Catch Someone on the Bounce After the CraterHow to Connect Your Why Before You Make the MoveHow to Show Up for the Hard-to-Love Without an Agenda Follow Human School:YouTube - Human School PodcastInstagram - @humanschoolofficialThreads - @humanschoolofficialTikTok - @humanschoolofficial What We Discuss:00:00:00 Meet Bob Goff00:05:04 What San Quentin Taught Him About Context andJudgment00:07:24 17 Counts of Armed Robbery, an Xbox, and $1,100Total Haul00:11:44 Knowing Your Tells00:12:11 Guide vs. Sherpa: How Onsite Does It Differently00:13:17 Self-Aware vs. Self-Absorbed00:15:57 Choosing to Be Misunderstood00:22:03 A Hot Pink Castle and Grandparents Who Were NutsAbout Him00:23:41 Stop Asking “How Are You?”00:28:52 The Loneliness Epidemic00:30:59 The Polaroid Problem —Hesitating to Make the Call00:36:50 Your “Eight” Relationships00:37:56 Four Lies Bob Tells Himself and the Audit ThatExposes Them00:44:58 Setbacks Aren't Campsites00:45:36 Quitting His Own Law Firm Without Explanation00:46:10 Quit Something Every Thursday00:58:45 12 Daily Disneyland Tickets and What They Reveal01:05:19 If Your Brain Can See Itself, It Can Heal Itself01:10:33 How Bob Got Six Giraffes from a President01:19:30 Catching People on the Bounce01:25:32 The Story of Kabi01:35:30 The Most Surprising Thing About Great Friendship