287. "Is My Sex Life Supposed to Feel Like This?" Zach Brittle on Long-Term Relationships, Scheduled Sex & What Actually Works

Zach Brittle is a Gottman-certified couples therapist in Seattle, host of Marriage Therapy Radio, and author of the upcoming book Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes. He's been happily married for 27 of 30 years (as in he GETS IT and has actually done the work) and has interviewed hundreds of couples, which means when he talks about relationships, he's not guessing. He joins Em and Cass for a no-bullshit conversation about what actually makes long-term love work.What you'll learn:How to actually build a thriving long-term relationship (and the two things most couples get wrong)Why "spontaneous sex" is a lie you've been mourning for no reason, and what to replace it withThe exact sex negotiation one of his couples swears by (and how to steal it)Why learning the difference between physical intimacy that isn't sexual and sexual intimacy that isn't physical will completely change your sex lifeHow to spot negative sentiment override in your own relationship (and why it's turning every "how was your day" into a fight)The one mindset shift that will change everything: why your relationship is NOT a zero-sum game, and nobody has to lose for you to winFind Zach at @marriagetherapyradio on Instagram, listen to Marriage Therapy Radio every Tuesday, and pre-order Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes out in April.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy