Jack Mallaby: Stop Making Pupils Fit the System

In this episode of Headship After Hours, Paul Collin is joined by Jack Mallaby, assistant headteacher and SENCO, for an honest conversation about SEND, neurodiversity, emotionally based school avoidance and attendance.Most heads aren't short on effort when it comes to attendance.The harder truth: so much of it often rests on one or two people — and when that's the case, it never feels steady, however hard everyone works.That's the work I do. I run a funded Senior Attendance & Leadership Resilience Check for headteachers and trust leaders in complex schools.It starts with a short strategic assessment. For eligible schools, it opens into a full process:On-site school visitDetailed, school-specific reportFollow-up strategy sessionPractical leadership tools for a clear 90-day planTypically valued at £1,000 — currently funded for eligible schools.Apply here → https://atrejwhi.formester.com/f/hwL9GCyin/Jack reflects on his own experiences of ADHD and dyslexia, his journey from mainstream education into specialist provision, and why inclusion must sit at the centre of school culture rather than being treated as an additional intervention.Together, they explore why many neurodiverse pupils experience anxiety around school, how educational trauma can shape attendance, and why relationships with young people and families are essential when attendance becomes fragile.This episode discusses:SEND leadership in mainstream and specialist schoolsEmotionally based school avoidanceNeurodiversity, anxiety and attendanceWhy relational practice mattersThe importance of primary-to-secondary transitionChild-centred attendance strategiesPreparing young people for adulthoodWhy schools should adapt systems around pupilsJack’s central message is clear:It should not be about making young people fit the system. It should be about making the system work for them. 00:00 – Educational Trauma and School Avoidance01:21 – Introducing Jack Mallaby02:20 – Jack’s Role in Specialist SEND Provision03:12 – Growing Up With ADHD and Dyslexia05:00 – Why Jack Moved Into SEND Leadership07:05 – Leaving Mainstream for Specialist Education08:10 – Inclusion as Culture, Not a Bolt-On09:28 – Relationships and Consistency in Specialist Schools12:07 – What Is Emotionally Based School Avoidance?12:53 – Educational Trauma and Distrust13:26 – How COVID Affected Neurodiverse Learners14:25 – Why Attendance Systems Respond Too Late15:31 – Identify, Stabilise and Restore Attendance16:40 – Relationships With Pupils and Families17:37 – Supporting Anxiety Without Labelling the Child18:50 – Preparing Neurodiverse Pupils for Adulthood20:08 – Compassion, Consistency and Capacity21:34 – What Schools Still Get Wrong22:36 – Primary-to-Secondary Transition25:03 – Why One Transition Day Is Not Enough27:04 – Supporting Complex Attendance Cases27:41 – A Child-Centred Attendance Strategy29:55 – Rethinking Educational Success33:41 – Jack’s Advice for School Leaders34:00 – Make the System Work for the Child