Why Men Choose Porn Over Partnered Sex with Lisa Etherson

You promised yourself you'd stop. You didn't. And then you took that as proof of something about you. But what if the porn and masturbation weren’t the whole story? What if they were the strategy quietly keeping something much scarier in place?A man reaching for porn instead of his partner may have found a version of sex that feels safer from shame.Lisa Etherson, UK-based psychosexual therapist and the originator of Shame Containment Theory, offers another lens: performance anxiety can involve fear of shame, and the behaviour we call “compulsive” or “addictive” can serve as a shame containment strategy.About LisaLisa Etherson is a psychosexual therapist, researcher, trainer and co-founder of The Shame Training Company.Connect with LisaTEDx talk: If you want to change your life, change your relationship with shameLinkedInProduced by Katie Jensen of Vocal Fry Studios, now in her third season with GETSOME. Explore Michelle’s book, Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer: comingsoonbook.ca.Has GETSOME given you something to think about? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts.