Fear Is a Mile Wide and an Inch Deep: How to Cross the Threshold in BPD Recovery (with Jay Skeeters)

Fear looks like an ocean. It looks like it will swallow you.Jay puts language on something a lot of people in BPD recovery already feel: the fear is a mile wide and an inch deep. From a distance it looks massive. After you take one step, you find out you can stand.In this episode of From Borderline to Beautiful, Rose and Jay talk about what actually gets you across that threshold — not more confidence first, but action. Confidence comes after you begin.We cover:Why fear looks like drowning when it is often a puddleWhy you do not need confidence before you actHow past experiences make a small step feel hugeWhy “I’m frustrated” is not the same as “I’m leaving”Fight, flight, and freeze — and what each one is protectingHow fear gets used to control, cover, or avoid being exposedTrading humiliation for patienceAligning your fight with the desire of your heart: a life worth living, not comfort in shameIf you keep waiting to feel ready, the fear stays wide. If you take the inch-deep step with your eyes open, you collect proof that you can stand.Try this after you listenName the fear in one sentence. What are you actually afraid will happen?Separate history from this moment. What is old, and what is here?Take one action that matches the life you want, not the comfort you know.After you do it, do not disqualify it. Own it.Fall Group – Starting September 30 I’m running a small fall group beginning September 30. Space is limited on purpose so participants can actually practice these skills with support and feedback.If you’ve been wanting structured work around emotion regulation, abandonment fear, and breaking the safety-behavior cycle, this group is designed for that.Individual session openings are also available if you prefer one-on-one work.Details: ⁠⁠thriveonlinecounseling.com⁠⁠Book a session with Rose or Jay: ⁠⁠⁠⁠thriveonlinecounseling.com⁠⁠⁠⁠Call/Text: 844-984-7483 (844-9-THRIVE)Fall group forming, register today!Podcast Website: thriveonlinecounseling.comFollow the show for more on BPD recovery, betrayal trauma, shadow work, values-based healing, and building authentic relationships.You are loved. You are worthy. You are created with purpose .See you next week on From Borderline to Beautiful.