Are Your Commitments Draining You? Learning to Choose Yourself | DIVO-Ted Talks

Sometimes the things that once made us feel alive become the things we no longer have the energy to carry.Not because we've stopped caring.Not because we've failed.But because our lives have changed.And perhaps the agreements we made along the way haven't changed with us.Sometimes being well and being free begins with recognizing what we can no longer keep carrying.━━━━━━━━━━━━━━Quote from the Episode:"Anyway, to be well and be free is to know who you are and how you want to live. And then taking one step towards it every day, maybe even multiple within a day."━━━━━━━━━━━━━━DESCRIPTION:There are commitments we make because they feel meaningful, because we're capable, or because someone needs us. And sometimes we keep honoring those commitments long after our lives have changed, wondering why we feel so depleted.In this episode, Nicholas reflects on the joy of teaching yoga and the wisdom that comes alive through DIVO Wellness Yoga Teacher Training. As he explores his natural tendency toward leadership, he also shares what it's meant to run a studio, recognize his limits, and step away from something he loved because he no longer had the capacity to give it what it deserved.The conversation moves into the contracts we make with the world: our work, responsibilities, relationships, and expectations of ourselves. Nicholas considers how constant busyness can become a way of feeling alive, how easily we create impossible versions of ourselves, and why changing an agreement isn't necessarily abandoning something meaningful.Perhaps the invitation is to recognize who we are now, rather than continuing to live according to who we once believed we had to be.And then take one step toward the life we actually want.━━━━━━━━━━━━━━A Map of Wisdom:Here are some of the places we go together in this talk:✦ Finding joy and purpose through teaching and lived experience✦ Recognizing what genuinely brings us alive✦ Understanding our commitments as agreements and boundaries✦ The unexpected responsibilities of leadership✦ Learning when to say no, even to things we love✦ How busyness and overcommitment can become depletion✦ Letting go of the impossible person we thought we had to be✦ Renegotiating our commitments to honor who we're becoming━━━━━━━━━━━━━━MARKERS ON THE PATH:Chapter themes are provided without estimated timestamps.(00:00) – Finding Joy and Wisdom Through Teaching Yoga— Following What Brings You Alive— Understanding the Contracts We Make— Leadership and Learning to Say No— Reclaiming Energy Through Boundaries— When Busyness Becomes Depletion— Letting Go of the Impossible Self— Renegotiating Your Commitments━━━━━━━━━━━━━━SOMETHING TO SIT WITH:What are you still carrying because of who you used to be, even though the person you're becoming may need something different?━━━━━━━━━━━━━━A RESTORATIVE STEP:An Inventory of Your EnergyTake two quiet minutes today.Sit comfortably and allow your breathing to settle.Think about the commitments that make up your life.Your work.Your relationships.Your responsibilities.The expectations you've placed on yourself.Notice which ones bring a sense of aliveness and which leave you feeling depleted.Then ask:What am I carrying because I once agreed to it?What might need to be renegotiated?What is one small step I can take toward the life I want now?You don't have to change everything today.Simply allow yourself to recognize what is true.Sometimes the first boundary we need to honor is the one that reminds us we are human.━━━━━━━━━━━━━━Stay Connected:🌐 DIVOWellness.com📬 Subscribe to Newsletter📍 DIVO Wellness — Greensboro, NC— 🧡 DIVO Wellness — Movement is the Way