Broken for Better

Feeling Like Roommates? Start Here!

March 26, 2026·21 min
Episode Description from the Publisher

Do you and your spouse love each other… but feel more like roommates lately? If physical intimacy has slowed down (or disappeared), this episode is for you. Because most of the time, intimacy doesn’t die first… connection does.In this conversation, marriage coaches Kurt and Denette Schaer talk about how emotional closeness creates the safety, warmth, and pursuit that makes intimacy possible again...even after stressful seasons, resentment, exhaustion, or the “scorekeeping” trap.In this episode, we cover:✅ Why the “honeymoon phase fading” doesn’t mean you’re broken✅ How stress, resentment, and exhaustion bury desire (not erase it)✅ The danger of scorekeeping: “When you do for me, I’ll do for you”✅ Why emotional connection can feel scary (especially for many men) and why it’s still not an excuse✅ Two simple tools you can start today:The 15-Minute Connection Window (phones down, TVs off)The Non-Sexual Touch Reset (affection without expectation)Big takeaway: Affection without expectation rebuilds safety — and emotional safety is the foundation for physical intimacy.Drop a comment: What’s one small rhythm you could start today to rebuild emotional closeness by tomorrow💛 Want more information about personal marriage coaching? Connect with Kurt and Denette at: https://www.brokenforbetter.com/coaching📍All the links - stay in touch:https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo

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