How to Accept Yourself (Without Giving Up on Change)

Self-acceptance gets recommended constantly, but are we really supposed to accept the parts of ourselves we don't like? Won’t that stop us from changing? Dr. Rick and Forrest discuss what self-acceptance is, what it isn't, and why it’s the starting point for real change. They share the four stages of competence (and why conscious incompetence is where learning stalls), the two escape hatches people take from it, why harsh self-criticism is a form of avoidance, and Rick's three circles model of the act, the scared self, and the being.  The Healing Link: In this new six-week live online course course, Rick will teach you how to use concepts from neuroscience to repair old wounds and change some of our most ingrained patterns. Learn more at RickHanson.com/Linking, and use promo code BeingWell25 to receive a 25% discount. Key Topics 0:00: Intro 3:04: What self-acceptance is (and isn't) 6:43: The four stages of competence 10:59: Two bad exits: "idiot" self-acceptance and excessive self-criticism 13:24: Critical self-acceptance: judge the behavior, not the self 22:13: The three circles: the act, the scared self, and the ‘being’ 26:44: The two things people struggle to accept 32:27: Should you accept the act? 43:20: Being with, working with, and the two levels of acceptance 51:35: Recap  Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Go to https://Zocdoc.com/BEINGWELL to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Go to https://Leesa.com for 20% off select mattresses plus get an extra $50 off with promo code BEINGWELL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices