#057 - John Koenig on Sorrow, Identity, Contradiction, & The Human Experience

John Koenig is the author of The New York Times' Best Seller Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows, a dictionary of made-up words for emotions that we all feel but don't have the words to express. We talk about his book, identity and individuality, contradiction, writing, the human experience, fatherhood, and more. — (00:44) Why use "sorrows"? (02:51) Did he ever expect the dictionary to be what it is now? (05:48) Existential wonderment and loss (08:50) Truth, internal dialogue, and contradiction (14:00) Contradiction of definitions (17:02) Is introspection valuable? Can you know who you are? (20:43) Not focusing on the present (24:18) Self-actualization vs. contentment (30:26) How you perceive people vs. how they really are (35:57) Next book: Sonder (39:03) Does sensitivity make life more difficult? (41:54) Career identity & pigeonholing (44:24) Writing vs. video (47:32) How fatherhood changes work & focus take on his work; finding meaning in community & ritual (51:25) Where does meaning reside? (53:27) Creative process takeaways for kids; self-expression and art (55:15) John's final questions for listeners — John’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/obscuresorrows Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows (Amazon): https://www.amazon.com/Dictionary-Obscure-Sorrows-John-Koenig/dp/1501153641 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/obscuresorrows Spencer’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/SP1NS1R Spencer’s Blog: https://spencerkier.substack.com/